Having a New Playspace Means Busy Doms



Let’s start off by saying that if you are somehow invited to Mistress Lydia’s new playspace through a cancellation or by other means just realize that everybody is NOT getting the opportunity to serve Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur and her friends. Consider yourself a lucky slave.

Mistress Lydia does not have time for games. Her schedule is extremely complex with not a lot of availability to new clients unless you seem interesting perhaps.  Just because you contact her does not mean that she will session with you. Always, show respect when first speaking to Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur.  She shows respect and consideration when it’s given.

In the future there will be upcoming parties if chosen this will be your chance to shine in front of other traveling or local Mistresses.  If you’re okay with being photographed or “caught on camera”then inform Mistress. If you would like to take part in one of her live streaming events coming up or evaluated for a position on her slave team then inform Mistress Lydia while scheduling your first session.

It would also be nice to possibly bring a giftcard or buy something special off of Mistress Lydia’s Amazon Wishlist.  Having a new playspace means more room for fun equipment and whatever the Mistress wants.  What women doesn’t enjoy a gift?

A rule to remember when participating in a session with Mistress Lydia is to not talk shit about other Dommes. She does not want to hear it or participate in the drama involved.  Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur supports women in the BDSM community and sex workers around the world.  If you think you have what it takes to work with Mistress Lydia then email a short bio along with 3 photos. No drug addicts and no drama. Must be able to think on your feet and be creative.

In two weeks Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur is having her first couples getaway for gay or straight couples who want to know more about BDSM and how to incorporate the lifestyle into their daily lives. Learn special techniques and safety for different fetishes you would like to engage in with your significant other.  All retreats are fun and can be a great learning experience.  To inquire about a weekend retreat with Mistress Lydia send an email to her explaining your availability and your situation.  There is a $100 deposit for all retreats per couple.

If you have any questions or comments feel free to text me at 919-234-7128 or via the contact form below.






Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur always takes a good photo

Check out Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur’s more upbeat photo collection. I know you boys like to look at me. Text me at 919-234-7128 to schedule a session if you’re close to the Chapel Hill area around the UNC area. I’m also close to RTP. You must schedule time with me.

I am extremely selective about who I session with and allow into my word and personal playspace. If you’re interested in meeting for lunch to discuss an upcoming session then you can schedule a time with me via the website or text. The lunch of course is on YOU and there is a $50 consultation fee. This is just a public meeting to see if we click or if you have questions.

The Beautiful Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur Photos

Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur states that something unknown is fucking with the universe

The strangest occurrences have been happening all around me. My friend got stung by a swarm of 20 bees out of the blue. Then while we were eating at a restaurant she had a bee fly off her purse and stung her. Then as we were riding in the car bees appeared again with screams in the back to stop the car. She was stung again another five times. WTF just happened?

Then my stepdad who has heart problems but never any urinary issues is admitted into the hospital with acute renal failure. One doctor says you will be okay and another says we need surgery or you’ll die. Huh? This bag of urine does not look normal. Again, WTF is happening?

Suddenly I have several financial domination request. I am very picky and selective as to whom I allow into my circle. This one had issues from the get go and I should have known to be leery. Do not EVER approach me with begging for a contract if you are more than just a loser. No one gives a fuck and realizes that they must work hard for me. I require much effort, money and time. I will release his details later. The conversation bores me but again I think WTF just happened.

There are signs all around us that the world is a bit out of wack. Thank god for my top slaves who will always be obedient and loyal. I will only surround myself with positive people or those who can benefit me. Don’t put an ounce of energy into those losers who just suck you dry. Make sure that the people you love are cared for and from time to time you may have to put on that advocate hat. Wear it proudly and accept nothing less then what you deserve.

Much Love To My Ladies ❤️❤️

Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur



Observe Mistress Lydia’s Mummification Demonstration at Dominate Me 4 on August 4th.

Mistress Lydia is very excited to be preforming at “Dominate Me” the fetish event in Fayetteville and displaying  just one of many ways to do a mummification. Here are more details about the show. Look for me around 9:30pm if you go.

Mummification demonstration in Fayetteville.

More Details:

Dominate Me 4 Mechanika Post Apocolyptic

“ There will be swords, whips, and fire!!”

Ticketlink: https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3500197

The year is 2087 and The Drunk Horse Pub is the last watering hole on the east coast to find debauchery, music and mayhem all in one place totally for your enjoyment.

Welcome to Mechanika!! A Post Apocolyptic BDSM event filled with fire, swords, whips and all the loudness that makes up what Dominate Me is all about.

We have 3 ultra hot BDSM demonstrations, 3 very loud and in your face live bands, 3 vendors, and a completely “open to anyone who wants” Open Play Party at the end. Also just added for the first, this event has it’s VIP Area with it’s own server. Check the pricing in the link above for availability.

Fractured Fairytales w/Tik Tok
The Deadly Sins (Fire Demo Team)
Ohno/Karnivoor (Heavy Flog/Masochistic Scene)
Mistress Lydia D – (Body Mummification)
Inviolate w/ Kadria (Sword Bellydancer/Singer)
Tabbie Athame (Gothic/Fetish Fire Hoop)

Hosted by “She-God” Lingerie/Fetish Model Ms. Allison Ronconi from Jacksonville, Florida.

Guest DJ : DJNinetails from RNT/YKW

Vendors: Fat Unicorn Creations, Brat Tamers, Make Me Naughty Paddles and Novelties

The space inside The Drunk Horse Pub features a large dancefloor, open bar, holds 250 easily with plenty of parking and overflow parking. Dungeon-like atmosphere with full PA and plenty of volume to knock you into the middle next week.

We have full Fet-Friendly nationally accredited event security staff, venue security staff, a staff EMT onsite, house tops for your enjoyment, and enough live hard hitting music that you will not forget this event. Don’t miss it!!!




Mistress Lydia’s rules to go with her new bdsm playspace.

Serve a FemDomHere is my WISHLIST for Mistress Lydia’s new bdsm playspace. Some of these items are duplicates but there is a big need for multiple items of the same kind.

Many of you don’t know that I now have my own playspace and will be extremely selective on whom I schedule at my new bdsm playspace. Just because you contact me doesn’t mean that you’ll session there. I may require a deposit to avoid wasting my time. Your first inital contact will be via text than if I like where it’s going I will talk to you on the phone to confirm a day and time to schedule a session.

If you’re interested in being a full-time servant email details to lydiadouleur@gmail.com. I hate when slaves think they are easy because they are doing a chore but remember sometimes it’s emotionally draining to always have to give my attention or not. Sometimes I need time to just space out and relax my mind a bit. If you want to hang out at my playspace that is fine but remember I need my own time as well. You will have to be there for a reason.

I have a list of chores and have assigned personal slaves to complete them. There is a reward system in place for those who do well. For those who don’t, you can leave. Don’t let the door hit you in the ass. I could care less. You either follow my rules or you don’t. I am not the Domme who gives pleasurable punishments. My punishments are things you may fear or hate. After spending time with you I figure this out on my own.

Cocky bitches who have been in the lifestyle for a while will be beat down emotionallty if acting like a know it all in my space. You are not more important than anyone else unless you are a head slave or we have a special contract. Newbies, I do love you and it’s fun to see you experience your first time doing many exciting things.

Newbies always think I am going to do something without their consent and that is never the case. We talk first then explore different fetishes together to see what you may or may not like as well as your tolenerance level. I do have a background in nursing and take safety seriously. If I deem you worthy I will conduct an evaluation to see if I can use you in the future. Everything is discussed and communication is the key the entire time for your first session. Just know that I rarely accept newbies unless I feel like I will enjoy the session.

Sometimes going on field trips with my slaves is fun. Let me know if your comfortable with this. Discretion is always used. Your information will never be given to anybody unless we have some sort of blackmail contract. We go out YOU ALWAYS PAY!

I enjoy doing DoubleDomme sessions, inquire more about this. I will be conducting educational, private classes for couples and weekend parties and retreats.

If your interested in working with me then send 3 photos and a bio with experience to lydiadouleur@gmail.com. I only deal with women who are strong and really trustworthy and smart. You must be able to be creative and to think on your feet. If you’re not then don’t apply.

If you would like to set up a session with Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur then text me at 919-234-7128. Feel free to use the contact form as well. Realize that I am in the RDU area of North Carolina. I do travel on occasion and take special travel request.

You must schedule time with me. I am rarely available at the drop of a hat unless your on my backup list for cancelled sessions. Make sure you are ready to schedule when contacting me.

Taking a Very Limited Few Live Sessions

For you lucky bastards who already know me then the good news is you’re in. For those still trying to schedule time then always know that the best things come to those who wait.

I will be accepting a very limited few live session beginning in July. If I can somehow squeeze you in and like you then we can have a normal schedule.

I have a playspace in Wilmington, NC and live in the Raleigh area. I must get to know you after a few sessions to come to my Raleigh location.

To all of those who have questions pertaining to my live sessions please read my ad. This will answer most of your questions. If you have more then contact me personally by text first 919-234-7128.

For my ad on Eros Guide, click here.

Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur