What are Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur’s Expectations?

When communicating with me via phone or social media always remember to use your manners. Even though I enjoy having fun and display a fun attitude online always remember that I am the one who determines if an activity or a person is enjoyable or not. Just because you may be having a blast doesn’t mean that I necessarily am. You cannot offer me something that hasn’t been offered before and has been offered to me day after day. Also, keep in the back of your pathetic mind that the other person I allowed to do whatever you offered was most likely 100 times better than you could ever be. Seriously, get over yourself boys! Everyone PAYS unless you have a ring on my finger or pay my bills.

Put your money where your mouth is. Many people I have wasted endless hours with because they talk too much, try to top from the bottom, get off on just the idea and become very chatty wanting to know details and the ones who think they are so good looking. LOL! Remember, I have others who are 100 times more than you could ever be. Get off your high horse and get the manurer off of my boot.

When requesting a custom clip or photo set always include what the deposit would be along with timeline for the finished product. I will not get all of the extra pieces in order without a deposit. This is why it is referred to as a custom clip. I do have some extreme BDSM video clips that I am not allowed to post on other websites to sell them. My videos never include those under the age of 18 or anything with animals.

I am accepting submissions for paypigs. If you’re not serious then don’t even bother. I am extremely picky about whom I call my paypig. Well, if you can’t send an initial tribute to even chat with me then we will most likely NOT work. Are you ready to be my personal piggy and receive all the benefits that my little losers have of being owned by me. Remember, many don’t cut it or have what it takes and I’ve seen this time and time again.

As many of you know I have gotten rid of about half of my clients so my energy is only given to those that respect my time. With this new change and some recent family stressors it is imperative that you always show me how much I am appreciated. Send me money or Amazon Giftcards to help with my transition recently only accepting the very best slaves possible to session with. Do what you can today and check out the different ways I accept payment. I no longer use PayPal.

GooglePay lydiadouleur@gmail.com

Venmo @Lydia-DOuleur

Cryptocurrency – Contact me for more details.

Virtual Terminal – Inquire for details.

July 2019 with Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur

There are many exciting ways to meet Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur this July whether it’s scheduling an online or live session. The tour planned for July 2019 has been canceled except for one destination. Inquire as to which location on the east coast that I may be popping up in soon. I do travel as needed for VIP clientele only.

PayPal is no longer a payment option for me, so as a writer and performer after many years PayPal cut me. I’m not sure which policy was broken. Was it me being a woman making money non traditionally? I currently have GooglePay lydiadouleur@gmail.com and Venmo @Lydia-DOuleur as payment methods for deposits. If need be there is a virtual terminal I use as well.

Silent Tributes Are Very Much Appreciated! Venmo @Lydia-DOuleur

I’ve had a lot of time to think since cutting half my clientele. I cut slaves that were timewasters, cheap and liars. I have zero tolerance for any bullshit. If you have not seen me then I require a deposit. You can not pay me at a later date. Imagine if you went to work and your boss said I’ll pay you sometime next month. Before a session I have prep work, sterilizing instruments, organizing and running sessions, scheduling appointments, screening clients, web work, events, podcast, marketing and my favorite, CLEAN UP! NOT! I love when people say well have the slave clean it. I shake my head and watch the pathetic assholes all of a sudden not know anything about being an adult. LMFAO!

One of the things I find so entertaining is slaves who believe they are entitled because of the way they look or maybe an executive position held. I don’t care to be perfectly honest with you. I most likely have no idea who you are in life due to my secret bubble. LOL! If you have no respect for yourself or towards me you most likely were cut from my client list. There is no entitlement. You reap what you sow. No games played here. No bullshit! No, unblock fee just when you’re blocked you will never have the honor of speaking to me again. My service is non negotiable. You can not offer me any service in lieu of tribute because you are not special and not worth my time.

Consider yourself a lucky person if you have had the opportunity to session with me in person or online. I individually pick whom I want to session with. If you interest me then use your shot at a session to impress me. I can be impressed with gifts, tribute, amazon gift card, vodka, perfume and by being a well-mannered slave.

Lookout for Wall of Shame Updates Coming Soon!

Check out more episodes of the podcast I co-host with David Abels and click the LIKE button!

Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur Announces Her July 2019 FemDom Tour Dates

For the month of July don’t miss Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur as she travels to specifically hand picked locations that have always been entertaining for her and locations in which she has a great preexisting clientele. It’s important to book early due to her heavy schedule load while traveling.

Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur July 2019 FemDom Tour

Booking Details

When scheduling a session for her upcoming tour please note that a deposit is required in order for you to get a confirmation. If you canceled for any reason deposit will be refunded. Typical sessions require a $50 deposit and $200 upon arrival minimum but the tribute is discussed prior to the day of the session. Please make sure the time slot is available that you are requesting.

Please note that if you must cancel a session for any reason there will be no refunds. It also makes Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur very happy if you bring her a gift or send one prior to the session. She enjoys 💵 , Amazon Gift Cards and nice alcoholic beverages to unwind after a long day.

Deposits can be sent via GooglePay to lydiadouleur@gmail.com

Venmo is also accepted @Lydia-DOuleur

At each of the four cities she visits she will also be doing Cashmeets.

Foot Worship Sessions are Always Available.

Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur July 2019 Tour Dates

Friday, July 5, 2019 – Sunday, July 7, 2019 Asheville, NC

Friday, July 12, 2019 – Sunday, July 14, 2019. Atlantic City, NJ

Friday, July 19, 2019 – Sunday, July 21, 2019 Savannah , Georgia

Friday, July 26, 2019 – Sunday, July 28, 2019. Boca Raton, Florida

The days in July that are not listed she will be in Chapel Hill, NC at her playspace. Schedule your time now.

To begin the scheduling process text Mistress Lydia at 919-234-7128 and include your age and city. She will answer when she is available due to a heavy schedule.

Only Her Slaves Know What This Looks Like In Person!

Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur does travel sometimes with advance notice for a minimum of $1000 plus travel expenses and rate varies depending upon request. Inquire more about custom rates by emailing lydiadouleur@gmail.com

If you have a request for her to perform in a video or at an event contact here ASAP to book her by emailing LydiaDouleur@gmail.com

Is Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur Coming To Your City?

Have you had the chance to check out Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur cohosting with David Abels? The latest podcast of the show I am Citizen Abels is available on YouTube so you can see what silly shenanigans they are pulling. The video link is below.

Don’t forget to subscribe, like the video and share it. There are three shows with Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur live now. Also, be on the lookout for an upcoming interview. 💋🥂🍾. . I am Citizen Abels Podcast

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Listen as Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur Co-Host, I am Citizen Abels Podcast.

You know a Mistresses life can often times be lonely and I like to get out around people and talk. Finding the position open for a co-host was one of the best discoveries this year. When we met we played off of each other so well. The Citizen is so funny and has me in hysterics the whole time I’m there. Watch the two podcasts that were just released. It takes a lot to make me laugh but we are funny as shit together.

Be sure to share, like and subscribe to the podcast.

Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur offers long distance chastity keyholder service for limited few

Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur offers long distance chastity keyholder services to a limited few. She can own your body from a far if you’re one of the lucky ones. Inquire more about Mistress Lydias Paid Keyholder Services by filling out the form below. It may take up to 48 hours to respond due to high volume of clients.

How do I measure myself for chastity?

One of my best times working as a Domme

I was on my visiting tour in Asheville, NC one of my favorite places to go. The architecture is beautiful and being a huge fan of ghost stories this place is ideal for me. There are many ghost tour but I was lucky enough to find one that wasn’t your typical scary story bump in the night stuff. The one we went to was put on by the Asheville Masons. The tour guide, a mason gives a lot of historical information as we walk the streets. The vibe outside reminded me a bit of the movie, “Lost Boys” and I really did feel like vampires were around us.

The fun in Asheville was continuous and the phone rang so I answered. The guy on the phone asked if I would be interested in performing at a bachelor party with about eight guys. I thought about it and quoted an enormous amount of money thinking he would not do it. I was doing Double sessions with another Goddess and I would consider us both to be two very tough girls. Theses two scary ladies also have a trunk full of terrifying items that can be used as weapons. The guy on the phone agreed to the amount and we went back to our condo and started to get ready.

I tried not to think about it too much. I am one crazy and scared driver when in the mountains. During one of my driving adventures of the past when I went to Brevard, I drove up a curvy mountain that was terrifying, to say the least. If a car was driving the other way there is not enough room for both of us on the road so one would have to back up. As I kept driving towards the top of this ridiculous yet scary road I begin to imagine a group of klansman at the top and decided to not go any further. I began driving the car backwards down the winding mountain.

I absolutely love the mountains when I’m not driving in them. After getting ready we finally arrive at the house that the group of guys was renting. Outside it was pitch fucking dark and we drove up to the house after I almost went off the cliff. There were no lights and my nerves got the best of me. My uncontrollable laughter sank in due to nervousness and I had tears coming out of my eyes because I was laughing so hard. I almost pulled a Thelma and Louise with the other Goddess but thank god that I stopped just in time. Finally, the car was parked on the side of the cliff. I was not quite sure how I would get out of here and back on the road but I decided to worry about that later. One emergency at a time.

We step out of the vehicle and several of the guys come out. The groomsman says that his friend things that strippers are coming. I laughed and said that we are far from that. They had big smiles on their face. I was always one to put on a show and enjoyed doing it, thanks again Meisner Approach Claases. We walk in and freshen up in a bathroom and talk about how we are going to do this.

The Double Domme team is now ready, bring us to the groom. The groom is sitting on a chair relaxed and smiling. He looks like he is getting ready for a lap dance. No lap dances today. We rip off his clothes and tell him to get down on the ground. I yell hurry hurry hurry like a drill sergeant in his ear. He is dumbfounded and was not expecting this. All of his friends are laughing at him and he has a big smile now as well.

So after about 3 hours of dressing the groom up to look like a beautiful sissy, we then began mummifying him and did some light flogging and electrical play until we were done. It was exhausting but I must say one of the best times I had yet. I don’t know why every bride to be doesn’t want this for her husband to be. We took photos for them and they loved it and thanked us immensely we left. I conquered my fear and had a great time doing it.

Now here is the shameless plug if anybody is interested in a Domme bachelor party with Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur and maybe some of her friends. Email lydiadouleur@gmail.com or text me at 919-234-7128 to check availability.

It’s Sadistic Sissy Sunday with Mistress Lydia D’Ouler

It seems as if the daytime is my favorite part of Sunday!



#Sexy is the new quiet





I could go on forever. Good luck if you get a day appointment today. Text 919-234-7128 to begin scheduling process. Newbies be prepared to pay a $50 deposit via PayPal at this link https://www.paypal.me/lydiaconsultants

The remainder can be paid upon arrival. My sessions begin with a #tribute of $200 and up.

I only accept sessions I enjoy. Just cause you have money and want one means shit to me. Let’s play losers! #ChapelHill # Raleigh #Cary #Durham CBT #humiliation #ballbusting


Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur


Fetish Fun All Saturday Night! Who is coming?

 As many of you know I’m having a Golden Shower Party and Slave Competition this Saturday. Slaves will compete for a chance to be crowned Queen/King of the Golden Showers.

The winner will receive a super secret grand prize worth thousands. Be sure to bring eye gear and a change of clothes if necessary. Inform me of any health concerns.

Since we are lucky enough to have such a small intimate party we have decided to all attend the Push Fetish Event in Durham after the party. Please be sure to check their pricing and guidelines for attire. You can change after our party and shower if competing.

I will not tolerate any rude behavior. You will he asked to leave immediately with no refund. This will be a fun, safe atmosphere to party. To purchase tickets to my event click link below.


Here are the details to the Push Fetish Event! https://www.facebook.com/events/1913853875316898/?ti=ia

Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur Writes for Dominate Me Magazine

Dominate Me Magazine #1

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Dominate Me Magazine #1

Writing has always been a passion for me even before becoming a Pro-Dom. As a young girl it was the cheapest form of therapy. Writing has always been a best friend of mine that doesn’t speak, which is the best kind. I’m not saying all friends should just shut up and listen but the majority of them SHOULD! Dominate Me Magazine is beautiful in the way it captures metal music and the BDSM/Fetish Scene.

Music for me is an essential extension of my creative capabilities and can be used to create the atmosphere you want to create during a session. An example is playing folk music for a mindfuck session unless the sub had some kind of fear to folk music. Anything is possible! The music I play in the background while working creates what I want the environment to be as a Professional Dominatrix.

It’s an honor to be a part of such an amazingly unique and beautiful magazine. You can purchase your copy of Dominate Me today digital download or via print or you can have both. If you have suggestions on future articles or content then contact me using the form below. Contact Mistress Lydia D’Ouleur via the form below.

Warning Jamie Earl Phillips of Lumberton NC is a Timewaster

Do not let this guy waste any of your time. I am posting enough right now but I have lots more. This guy is a huge timewaster to the FemDom community.


Jamie Earl Phillips 43 year old

77 Creekwood Rd

Lumberton, NC 28358


Mobile: 910-736-0215

Landline: 910-608-0026

FixedVOIP: 910-738-2643

Carolyn S. Phillips and David Earl Phillips are related to him

Tomorrow you’ll get to see the photos and videos of him. I’ll also let you know where he works so the workplace can see them as well.